Courtesy: Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach
Some of these signs of cheating are “tongue in cheek” while others are tell-tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife.
- You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy.
- Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)
- Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.
- Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.
- He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
- She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.
- She buys a cell phone and doesn’t let you know.
- He Sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.
- The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.
- Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.
- Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.
- He becomes “accusatory,” asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.
- Raises hypothetical questions such as, “Do you think it’s possible to love more than one person at a time?”
- He buys himself new underwear.
- He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.
- The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.
- Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.
- Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.
- Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
- He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.
- He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.
- Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.
- Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.
- You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.
- Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.
- Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.
- Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.
- Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.
- He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.
- Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.
- His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.
- The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.
- You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.
- Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy” and easily moved to anger.
- You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.
- He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.
- Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.
- He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.
- She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.
- She has a “glow” about her.
- A typical erratic behavior.
- He sneaks out of the house.
- She sleeps with her purse by the bed
- She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.
- He tells you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.
- He or She comes straight home and takes an immediate shower.
- Your spouse seems bored. Bored with you, with job, with kids, with hobbies, with life in general.
- Your spouse seems to want danger or thrills in his/her life.
- Your spouse deletes the internet history and cookies on the computer to cover his or her tracks.
- Your spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.